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Bad News Bears (2005)
IMDB rating: 5.90
Plot: Morris Buttermaker (Thornton), an alcoholic pest removal worker and former professional baseball player (for a very short time), is recruited to coach and train a failing baseball team of 12 year olds which is about to be thrown out of the league. Although the team does not win the first place in the next championship, it does achieve a great comeback.
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Directors: Linklater Richard
Actors: Thornton Billy Bob,Kinnear Greg,Canipe Ridge,Craggs Brandon,Davies Jeffrey,Deters Timmy,Estrada Carlos,Estrada Emmanuel,Gentile Troy,Harris Kenneth ‘K.C.’,Johal Aman,Jones Tyler Patrick,Tedmori Jeffrey,Comedy,Sport,
How could I lighten the news of my name change?
How can I break my last name change to my "dad’s" side of the family?
When I was around the age of 2, after my dad allegedly had some sort of affair, my mom and my dad got a divorce; and after that, my "dad" continued on being –for all intents and purposes– a bad father, by neglecting to act as my father.
It was a really rough time for my mom (who is a Saint, by the way), but she managed with the help of her family AND ALSO my dad’s family, and eventually she met my TRUE father, and remarried when I was 4. He then fully took on the responsibility of being my dad and raised me like I was blood, with affection and all. And he wanted me to have his name, as well, so he and my mom took my dad to court about changing my last name; but when my grandparents (dad’s side) found out, they completely opposed that and urged my dad to fight the idea, and so he never consented to me changing my name to my "stepfather’s," and that is where my life problem started.
Up until that point, my dad was the only one who wasn’t fulfilling their role in life. I (and even my mom) had a great relationship with my grandparents and aunt, and in all actuality, they collectively felt like a parent to me–so there was no problem. But when this whole thing came up about changing my name, my grandparents were hurt or angered, so things were never quite the same between the family on my dad’s side and my mom, though their problem was more with my "stepfather" than my mom, since it was more his wish for my name change. I, however, still had a great relationship with the grandparents and aunt, and I always have. But through my life, I have gone by my stepfather’s last name (nickname, i guess) in everything I did, and i basically played it off on my dad’s side by saying it was my stepfather who wanted me to do it–which was true, but i liked going by the name, as well.
Anyway, growing up, that was always a really sensitive subject, and many fights or really unpleasant discussions have come up all through my life about the possibilities of my changing my name when I turned 18.
Well, i turned 18 in 2006, and decided to change my name to my stepfather’s and told the courts i was doing that to honor my "true" father. And i have never felt like it was the wrong choice. But–and this is where i sound terrible–i never told my dad’s side that i went through with the name change for fear of losing them. That may sound extreme, and may be extreme, but through all of those very heated discussions i had growing up, i feel like i know the news would be quite a blow to our relationship (between my grandparents and aunt). Anyway, i used to think that I would be able to keep this a secret from that side of the family forever and make everyone happy, but obviously that’s not realistic; and thing that opened my eyes to that truth is marriage talk with my girlfriend of 5 years. How could we get through a ceremony without anyone finding out… haha. And obviously it is time to get rid of this burden, and i definitely don’t want my wife to have to bear it.
Anyway, I have thought about just changing my name to my wife’s last name… but i really don’t like that idea. I also used to ask both sides if i could just mix the names somehow between the middle and last names, but basically said all or nothing. Man… i don’t know what to do. It haunts my life, honestly. I mean, I’m a happy person and have a pretty great life, but this name situation sucks, and has always sucked. Sorry if this little story is choppy and hard to follow. It’s hard trying to reduce the story down to 90% of the related happenings, since this has been an issue since my early childhood. If anyone is curious about any more information, feel free to ask. I won’t be offended.
It’s shocking that a man who would be such a great father to you would create such a problem for you. It’s just a name. You are a man now. You need to decide what YOU want, then tell them. They may get angry, but they will get over it. It sounds like they need you much more than you need them. Stop being subjected to emotional blackmail. Your "real" dad is dead wrong, and so are your dad’s family.
ouragon | Jan 21, 2010
I admire you and think your stepfather (who really was your real father in more ways) would be proud of you. You really don’t owe anyone an explanation of your name change - even your bio-father’s side of the family.
With names now a days, its not so important about keeping or changing a name you were born with. You use your name you’ve been using for your marriage name and put it on the invitations. And your fiance’ takes your last name as it is now.
Ocimom | Jan 21, 2010
I’m changing my last name to ‘Eastwood’, just because ‘KJ Eastwood’ has a ring to it.
you could do the same, and it’s all good.
(I’m also thinking about ‘Vader’. K.J. Vader… Hmmmmmmm)
KJ III | Jan 21, 2010
Curious about MORE information?! Jesus. You are kidding. I am a busy lady with a life and did not have time to read the whole of this, let alone more! Just tell whoever needs to know that you are changing your name. If you worry about what everyone says and thinks you will never do anything in life.
Samantha South | Jan 21, 2010
Right first things first. It is up to you, you are an adult, it is your choice and they will just have to lump it.
You say how great your dad’s side of the family is but they can’t be that brilliant if they would stop talking to you for changing your name.
Perhaps double barrel your last name if you want a compromise.
i_ate_sponge_bob | Jan 21, 2010
