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 Upside of Anger, The (2005)
IMDB rating: 7.10
Plot: A sharp-witted suburban wife, Terry Wolfmeyer, is left to raise her four headstrong daughters when her husband unexpectedly disappears. Things get even more hectic when she falls for her neighbor Denny, a once-great baseball star turned radio d.j. This leaves her daughters out on a limb. They are forced to juggle their mom’s romantic dilemmas as well as their own.
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Directors: Binder Mike
Actors: Costner Kevin,Binder Mike,Harper Tom,Christensen Dane,Webb Danny (IV),Firth David,Woodruff Rod,Greif Stephen,Drama,Comedy,Romance,
Who am I? WHY do I feel this way? Can I talk to you about it?
It’s gettin closer to that time of year again. Those who know me on here know something about my situation. So therefore, I wont bore you with that. But the holidays for most, is a time of joy or sorrow. For me, it’s both sorrow and anger. I reflect back on my dip Chit father who died of lung cancer at the age of 46 when I was ten. Here is my rant…
I hate you dad. You were not THAT good of father. Yes you may have been a good person. Thats not for me to judge. All I CAN say is that you are a crappy father. Made me afraid to look at the naked female body with the threat that I was gonna get hit upside the head if I glanced at the boobies in "Point Break". You and mom put the fear in me and made me uneasy around girls. Thanks! You degraded me and treated me like secondary. I literally had to beg you how to teach me how to throw a fishing line. Thank you for showing me and taking a few seconds of beer break to show me. You even forced me to hang out with kids I did not like.Go have another drink asshole!! I remember when we were watching the Jean-Claude Van-Damm movie, "Cyborg" which I taped off of channel 11 one night. I remember you telling me to turn around real quick during the scene when the chick was about to remove her top on the beach. You had that look in your eyes as if you were waiting to beat me if it was a nude scene. Thankfully, channel eleven cuts out nudity! It’s ok old man. You don’t have to turn your fists. Now use your hand and tak another swig of that good ol budwiser.
Who am I? Why do I hate my father who has been dead for almost 20 years? I am glad he died nowadays. I wish it was me that killed him for the little things others had growing up. I’m 28. However, lung cancer is more painful and slow. You die from the inside!! DAD!!! I TOLD YOU NOT TO SMOKE ANY MORE CIGARRETS!!!! NOW LOOK AT YOU!!!! HAHAHAHAHA I HATE YOU!!!!
I understand. Thanks for sharing.
Uncle Dudd | Nov 19, 2009
Ok, well I understand. I think you might be a bit messed up in the head ?
I am glad he died nowadays. I wish it was me that killed him for the little things others had growing up. I’m 28. However, lung cancer is more painful and slow. You die from the inside!! DAD!!! I TOLD YOU NOT TO SMOKE ANY MORE CIGARRETS!!!! NOW LOOK AT YOU!!!! HAHAHAHAHA I HATE YOU!!!! I don’t think thats right to say. But maybe you have something wrong with your brian >.>
Amber | Nov 19, 2009
Please seek professional help to deal with this. I am taking forensic psychology now and do not like the red flags that went up in my mind when I read your rant. I think it is highly possible that if you continue without professional help you may become a threat to yourself or others. If you do not wish to harm yourself or others PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Lady L | Nov 19, 2009
I greatly understand your situation all too well. My father didn’t die, but I did move out and haven’t seen him in almost 6 months, and for the longest time, I hated him for what he did to me…
I think you should read The Celestine Prophecy. More importantly, read the chapter on letting go of the past. You don’t need to necessarily forget the past, just acknowledge the past, know how it affected your life, and simply move on. It doesn’t sound so simple and easy, (I know, I read the book and it has changed my life completely) but in order to complete your life and be a healthy being, you need to let go of what happened and continue on your life path.
Another chapter that might interest you to read is the one on Control Dramas. They are a part of everyone’s life, and once you realize your control drama, you can let it go, and move on.
I hope you all the best in your life, and I am truly sorry you had to experience that in your life. Remember to love your life, and never forget to stop and smell the roses.
<3 hope I helped.
TheNewTwANgEr | Nov 19, 2009
i am going through the same phase although my dad is still alive. he left me and my mom when i was 2. and now when i am 19 i have to stay with him just because of some school problems and stuff. he treats me like shit.
does not even me consider me as a daughter. I HATE YOU! and i don’t even feel like calling him my dad.
he has an affair with a bitch. and seeing this shit each day is killing me inside. i suffer from depression and i cut myself to help relieve the pain. but i know that my life will end up in a suicide. because no matter how happy i may be….this shit will always stay in my head and even though i try so hard to forget about it…..i cant….i am so fucked up.
just want to die !!!!!
Scorpleena | Nov 19, 2009
I haven’t been around long enough to know your story, Kevin, but I can surmise from this post that your childhood was an emotionally traumatic one.
I can completely empathize with the pain of growing up with a lot of emotional trauma.
I had a lot of forgiveness to work through before I could breathe a breath of fresh air.
Once I realized that my hatred and unforgiveness was only hurting myself, I began to work through the forgiveness.
My childhood was emotionally and physically abusive. It was really, really bad. I didn’t think I could ever stop hating people who deserved to be hated.
The best thing I ever did for myself was to ‘divorce’ myself from my family of origin. I still have problems, and am still forgiving, but my life today is a miracle considering what I went through.
I won’t go into detail, but I will tell you that my father was a schizophrenic. That’s enough for starters.
I spent years in therapy, and several hospitalizations from suicide attempts.
I feel a lot of those years in therapy were wasted years, because my issues weren’t addressed, because I couldn’t face the pain of reliving the events of my life that got me where I was.
I had to finally face the pain and begin the process of renewing my mind through forgiveness.
When I flipped the coin over, I found that on the other side of hatred was the deepest hurt and pain of not being loved.
Every human being needs love in order to survive and thrive in life.
For me, it had to begin with loving myself. That has been the hardest thing in the world to do. Because all my life experiences had taught me that I was unlovable.
Today, I love and respect myself. I’m not ‘there’ yet, as far as being completely healed from my past, but I am very grateful for each day that I can look in the mirror and not feel like puking my guts out. That’s how much I hated myself.
I truly hope you find your path of peace in this life, Kevin. My thoughts and prayers are with you. May you find peace on this journey.
learningmatters | Nov 19, 2009